Jul 10, 2011
When is a couple ready to get married? In the past, one answer was that individuals must first do therapy and become emotionally mature before they should get married. When I gave pre-marital counseling to couples and tried to use this answer, I found something unusual. No couple I counseled seemed to meet this test, where both people had completley reached emotional maturity. I discuss how I modified my approach in counseling engaged couples, changing the 'therapuetic' model that was unrealistic in its demands.
Next time we will look at two closely related questions: How do you keep a marriage going? and How do you know when a marriage will no longer work?
This podcast series is based on my book The Six Faces of Love which can be viewed at craigowen.net